Dos and Don’ts

Presuming you are following the dress code, here are some hints to ensure that you enjoy the night.

Please note: This list of dos and don’ts is a guide for behaviour at Nimhneach, rather than a general guide to BDSM and/or fetish.

• Do enjoy yourself!
• Do show off your body but no full frontal nudity (this is a venue policy).
• Do take in the occasion but don’t overdo it on alcohol or other stimulants. The atmosphere tonight should be heady enough as it is!
• Don’t join in or talk with people in a scene, unless specifically invited to do so.
• Do admire peoples’ toys but don’t touch unless you are invited to.
• Don’t touch anybody unless you have specifically checked that it’s OK.
• Do let people know if you are interested but no means no — In this circumstance; every time and immediately.
• Do follow core values of safe, sane and consensual. You want to be able to come back and enjoy the next night.
• Do inform the organisers if you feel intimidated or harassed at the event.
• Do negotiate play, preferably with somebody you have known for some time.
• Do be aware of general physical and emotional issues around play. There are lots of online resources and books out there. Take your time if you are a beginner.
• Do get into it if you meet somebody you like, but if it gets really hot and heavy, please take it home — No sex on the premises.
• Do try out forms of play that you are familiar with but no blood or water play. We, the organisers, are not prepared to fall out with the owners over the carpets!
• Don’t join in or talk with people in a scene, unless specifically invited to do so.
• Don’t pass comment on scening folk. Watching is OK, but maintain a respectfull silence.